From heartbreak to IVF to identical twin boys — Rochelle shares how she found her power and joy doing this solo.
In this inspiring episode, Alisha chats with Rochelle — a solo mum who went from quietly grieving the “traditional family” she once imagined… to owning her choice and becoming a proud solo mother of identical twins.
At 37, Rochelle booked her first fertility specialist appointment and everything changed. She went from “I wish I had someone to do this with” to “I’m actually choosing this.” She found her donor through Seattle Sperm Bank, conceived on her first embryo transfer… and at the dating scan discovered she wasn’t having one baby, but two. From the shock of hearing “I can see two heartbeats” to navigating an MCDA twin pregnancy, early hospital monitoring, a planned C-section at 36+1, and the wildness of feeding two newborns solo, Rochelle has built a family that feels not just possible, but magical.
Rochelle’s story is a reminder that choosing solo motherhood isn’t last-choice energy, it can be the most joyful, fun, self-expanding decision you ever make.
From Grief to Empowered Choice: Rochelle originally saw solo motherhood as the “last option on the shelf”, until her specialist made her feel celebrated, not pitied.
Donor Selection Became Emotional: She cried when she found the right donor. it felt romantic, meaningful, and instantly “him.”
The Biggest Plot Twist: Rochelle thought she was pregnant with one baby, until the sonographer calmly said she could see two heartbeats.
MCDA Twin Pregnancy: Fortnightly scans, irritable uterus, steroid injections, and a planned C-section at 36+1 before seven days in special care.
Doing the Newborn Stage Solo: It’s chaotic, yes, but she’s surprised herself with how resilient, capable, and joyful she’s become.
Rochelle’s message for anyone wondering if they can really do this? Not only can you, you might just discover the strongest, happiest version of yourself on the other side.
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