Reflections; on a Self Love Journey
The Power of the Pause on A Year of Self-Welcoming, Self-Love & Inner Wisdom
Episode 52 marks one full year of podcasting, and instead of rushing ahead, this episode was crafted from a mindful pause. A reflection on fear, self-sabotage, emotional intelligence, neuroscience, self-love, and the inner Sage that guides us home to ourselves.
This episode weaves poetry, personal storytelling, philosophy, neuroscience, coaching insights, and poetic reflection to explore how our inner voices shape our lives, and how learning self-compassion, emotional regulation, and mindful self-care builds the strongest foundation of all: self-preservation through self-love.
This is not a journey of “self-help,” but a self-welcoming journey, toward peace, resilience, meaning, and living in alignment with who you truly are.
Quotes from the Episode
- “No one teaches us how to talk to ourselves — and yet it shapes our entire life.”
- “Knowledge is only powerful when it’s applied.”
- “Knowing is 20%. Action is 80%.”
- “Labelling is disabling.”
- “The secret to change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” Socrates
- “Peace is priceless.”
- “No one drives me crazy unless I hand them my keys.”
- “Self-compassion softens the harsh edges inside you.”
- “Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.”
Key Themes Explored
- The power of the pause and reflection
- Self-sabotaging inner voices (Victim, Pleaser, Stickler, Avoider)
- Emotional intelligence; EQ vs IQ
- Fear as a system of control vs inner awareness as liberation
- Ancient wisdom (Buddha, Confucius, Lao Tzu, Socrates)
- Neuroscience, neuroplasticity, and nervous system balance
- Fight-or-flight vs rest-and-digest
- Gut health, hormones, and emotional wellbeing
- Mirror work and healing unfelt pain
- Writing, creativity, and finding meaning
- Living in alignment with values
- Self-love as self-preservation
Key Takeaways
- Self-love is not indulgence, it is self-preservation
- Fear keeps us stuck; awareness sets us free
- Emotional intelligence is foundational to a fulfilling life
- Our brains are malleable, what’s learned can be relearned
- Healing happens through practice, not just knowledge
- Peace comes from within, not from controlling circumstances
- Self-compassion creates the safety needed for growth
- When we stop fighting ourselves, transformation begins
- Meaning and purpose make life bearable, and beautiful
Your time to Reflect & Journal
- What if the voice sabotaging you isn’t the truth, but an outdated coping mechanism?
- What happens when you stop fighting yourself and start listening to your inner Sage?
- How would your life change if you met yourself with unconditional love instead of judgment?
Final Note
This episode is a celebration, of consistency, courage, healing, and a year of showing up. A huge thank you to everyone who has been involved, for their support and encouaragement, and a huge thank you to you my listeners for tuning in and turning up for you.
With a reminder that you matter, that your inner wisdom is real, and that choosing self-love is a revolutionary act in a fear-driven world.
If you’d like to explore positive intelligence coaching and mental fitness, you’re invited to reach out to me via email
As always, take care of you.
You matter. Today, tomorrow, and every day.
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