In this episode, Princeton shares a follow up to his conversation on self-love with Dr. Mikki Taylor. You protect what you value, and Princeton teaches how the greatest demonstration of loving yourself, is protecting yourself. This is a must listen!
- 3:45—Princeton Parker introduces the topic of today--boundaries
- 4:19—Boundaries are huge in your ability to love yourself. Boundaries are a reflection of value.
- 4:45—You can tell how much meaning something has to someone by their willingness to protect it: think about your bank account or house? To what extent have we protected these things?
- 6:20—Boundaries must be set out of value, not fear.
- 6:19—The art of setting boundaries is done because you value yourself rather than as a way to avoid your fears.
- 9:20—Humility is not your ability to be loved. Humility is strength is under control.
- 10:35—God never wants us to be so in touch with him that we are not in touch with humanity or ourselves.
- 11:00—What to be of service means and doesn´t mean. Being of service and putting ourselves aside equates to unhealthy boundaries. Set boundaries to honor your value.
- 13:10—The blueprint for boundaries using Jesus as a case study. Even Jesus had boundaries
- 14:24—Jesus lives along the line between humanity and divinity.
- 15:30—One of the key steps in your self-love journey would be learning to acknowledge, embrace, and then, honor your limits. Limits can include the following topics: I cannot change people. I do not control the way other people receive me. I do not control the way other people receive my truth. I need to rest.
- 17:30—You cannot feel guilty for your limits.
- 18:20—If you have not acknowledged and embraced your limits, others are going to make you feel guilty for them.
- 19:54—Acknowledge your limits and the honor them by setting boundaries.
- 21:20—Everything Jesus does is intentional and by design.
- 22:04—The first boundary: Jesus had strict boundaries around his time. Jesus practiced spending time alone.
- 23:20—What we lose when we overfill our life with people and projects is our time alone.
- 24:20—Acknowledging your limits means acknowledging that you aren´t holding everything up--family, relationship, and a job can all survive without you.
- 25:27—Jesus knows how to prioritize his needs over everyone else`s.
- 26:33—Jesus spent time away but he also changed the environment--nature, the beach, eat alone.
- 27:27— We use intentional time alone to invest in ourselves: prayer.
- 28:25—Prayer is used as a processing space.
- 30:36—Have you thought about where you need to go to get away from your daily routine and do you respect your boundary of being alone? Sometimes you have to say no.
- 31:28—Jesus knew how to not prolong a conversation, experience, or relationships.
- 32:24—Jesus knows how to not allow someone to overstay their welcome.
- 33:50—Value your time enough to not be late. Start to set boundaries around your time.
- 34:15—Second boundary: Jesus had boundaries around who he revealed himself to in his fullness. Jesus had 12 friends and he only revealed his true form to three of them.
- 36:25—Jesus was careful about who he revealed his skills to (Mathew 13).
- 38:50—I set boundaries around my gifts and talents--only giving them to those who see me for who I am.
- 40:21—Jesus set boundaries. Jesus is love, and therefore, setting boundaries is love.
- 42:00—The power of having boundaries set as an inner circle, outer circle, and outside world.
- 43:30—The third boundary: Jesus never worked to prove himself. he was resolute in knowing who he is and what he came to do.
- 45:00—You don`t owe the world an explanation.
- 46:12—Faith is not the divine nature above going to drop you something miraculous. It is about putting your work in plus the acts of God.
- 47:30—How long you have suffered does not entitle you to success or a specific outcome. You have to do the work.
- 49:40—Get rid of that ¨enough thing.¨
- 50:00—Fourth boundary: Jesus had boundaries around what he tolerated. He did not tolerate hypocrisy, judgement, or abuse.
- 52:00—Make a list of things that you will not tolerate in relationships, in your space, or things happening around you.
- 53:23—Jesus knew when to respond and when not to respond-- ¨You said it.¨
3 Key Points:
- Boundaries are a huge part of the pathway to self-love.
- Boundaries to set with Jesus as an example: Time, who I reveal myself to, who I prove myself to, what I tolerate, and what I need a response.
- Jesus was unlimited and yet he had boundaries. Loving everyone and everything does not come at the expense of loving yourself.
Tweetable Quotes:
- “One of the key steps in your self-love journey would be learning to acknowledge, embrace, and then, honor your limits.” –Princeton.
- “You cannot feel guilty for your limits.” – Princeton.
- “You don`t owe the world an explanation.” – Princeton.
- “With God as your foundation and purpose as your motivation, keep going.”–Princeton
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