In this episode of Relational Lives, hosts Ali and Ros explore the tender and universal experience of grief, the pain that accompanies the loss of those we love, whether human or animal. Together, they unpack the many faces of grief, from its emotional and physical expressions to the cultural stories that shape how we mourn. The conversation reminds us that grief is not a sign of weakness but a reflection of love, its depth often mirroring the strength of our bonds.
As the dialogue unfolds, Ali and Ros offer thoughtful perspectives on navigating grief with compassion and authenticity. They discuss how grief looks different for everyone and why it’s essential to give ourselves permission to feel, even when society encourages us to “move on.” Drawing on models like the dual process framework, they highlight the ebb and flow between loss and restoration, showing that healing is not linear but deeply human. The episode closes with gentle, practical guidance on embracing self-care and allowing grief to unfold at its own pace.
✨ Perfect for anyone interested in grief, loss, attachment, mental health, coping with grief, emotional support, bereavement, and self compassion.
00:00 Understanding Grief and Its Impact
02:37 The Physical and Emotional Experience of Grief
06:55 Navigating Grief: Personal Stories and Insights
10:28 Coping Mechanisms and Cultural Perspectives on Grief
13:30 The Non-Linear Nature of Grieving
16:48 The Role of Attachment in Grief
18:41 Understanding Self-Reliance in Grief
20:52 The Impact of Attachment Styles on Grieving
24:13 Cultural Expectations and Individual Grief
27:19 Navigating Support for Grieving Individuals
30:59 Healthy Coping Mechanisms for Grief
35:20 The Importance of Self-Compassion in Grief
📍 Resources mentioned: John Bolby's book on Loss:
Dr Tonkin - growing around grief:
https://bit.ly/45Tauc7 https://bit.ly/4pJ0p8K
Dual Process Model:
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