EPISODE 7: Fear of Not Enough
Title: Fear of Not Enough (Shed & Shine Ep. 7 — Series Two: The Fears That Keep Us from Shining Our Light)
Length: ~24 mins
Description:
“Not enough” isn’t your flaw—it’s a learned shadow. In this first episode of Series Two, Dr. Sarah Lee (coach, professor, meditation & yoga teacher) traces how scarcity culture, comparison, and perfectionism keep the bar moving further away so we never feel quite "enough".
Drawing on social psychology, yoga philosophy, and Buddhist teachings, Sarah offers a grounded, spiritual-leaning reset: non-grasping, contentment, and simple values-aligned actions.
You’ll also learn a quick “fact vs. forecast” thought check to turn doom-y predictions into clear next steps—so worthiness becomes a lived experience, not a finish line.
What You’ll Learn:
How scarcity culture fuels “never enough”—and why you’re not the problem
Why comparison + objectification increase anxiety and self-surveillance
How stereotype threat quietly taxes performance under identity pressure
A kinder path: self-compassion and intrinsic values (SDT) for sustainable motivation
The yoga/Buddhist lens—non-grasping, contentment, and the “hungry ghost” image—in plain language
A practical fact vs. forecast reframe to move from story → action
Practice Card:
Affirmation: “Right now, as I am, I am enough. I am worthy.”
Name one intrinsic value and take a 10-minute action that honors it.
Micro-challenge (24 hrs): Notice Negative Self-Talk. When a harsh story appears, ask: forecast or fact?
Forecast → rewrite as fact + one next action.
Global label → narrow to something specific and workable.
Reflection Prompts:
What standard am I trying to meet—and who set it?
One intrinsic value I’ll honor this week is ________. What’s a 10-minute action that lives that value?
Resources Mentioned:
Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2000). The “what” and “why” of goal pursuits: Human needs and the self-determination of behavior. Psychological Inquiry, 11(4), 227–268.
Festinger, L. (1954). A theory of social comparison processes. Human Relations, 7(2), 117–140.
Fredrickson, B. L., & Roberts, T. (1997). Objectification theory: Toward understanding women’s lived experiences and mental health risks. Psychology of Women Quarterly, 21(2), 173–206.
Neff, K. D. (2003). Self-compassion: An alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. Self and Identity, 2(2), 85–101.
Steele, C. M., & Aronson, J. (1995). Stereotype threat and the intellectual test performance of African Americans. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 69(5), 797–811.
Bryant, E. (2009). The Yoga Sūtras of Patañjali: A new edition, translation, and commentary. North Point Press. (Santosha; Aparigraha)
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