WHEN IT GETS WORSE FIRST – Grief has layers, and sometimes the anger that rises to the surface is just the first sign that something deeper is trying to heal. In this episode, I share my own season of transition, loss, and overwhelm, and how the PEARL Practice helps us recognize what’s underneath anger so we can feel it without letting it lead us into harmful patterns. This is about understanding why it feels worse before it gets better, and how to be angry without letting anger run your life.
Key Takeaways
• Anger is often a signal of unprocessed grief, change, or internal pressure, not a personal failure.
• The PEARL Practice shows how anger moves from thought to emotion to action, and where we can interrupt the cycle.
• “Worse first” moments usually mean healing is happening, not that you’re going backward.
Action Guide
Pay attention to one moment of anger this week. Instead of reacting, pause long enough to ask, “What am I believing right now, and what’s actually true.” Name the feeling, let it settle in your body, and choose one small stabilizing response instead of a default reaction.
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