Description

Have you tried to change an unhelpful habit or behaviour, and got stuck? Perhaps you WANT to change and DON’T WANT to change it at the same time, feeling ambivalent and resistant to do something about this problem. Then you beat yourself up for it. 

In this episode, I speak to Dr Stan Steindl about compassion and motivation for change. 

Dr Stan Steindl is a Clinical Psychologist in private practice at Psychology Consultants Pty Ltd, and an Adjunct Associate Professor at School of Psychology, University of Queensland, Brisbane, Australia. He is also co-director of the UQ Compassionate Mind Research Group.

He is the author of three books: Compassion in a T-Shirt (2020), The Gifts of Compassion: How to Understand and Overcome Suffering (2020), and The Gifts of Compassion: Personal Practice Workbook (2021). 

We cover:

• Compassion to others, and to self
• Motivational Interviewing (MI) and Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT)
• Ambivalence about changing behaviour
• Arguments for/against changing
• Supporting autonomy to make a choice
• Fears, blocks, resistances to compassion
• Changing alcohol habits with Compassion Focused Therapy
• Rolling with resistance, “yes...but”
• Self-determination theory, not liking being told what to do
• Being helpful, not harmful, to self and others
• The strength and courage of compassion to do hard things
• Giving up self-criticism to self-compassion
• Short-term gain, long-term pain
• Threat system - fight/flight
• Soothing system - calm and controlled
• Setting compassionate intention

Find Stan at www.stansteindl.com

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This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media