Likewise we are always saying no in ways we may not be aware of, and may even be saying “yes” when we mean “no,” adding undue stress and complication to our lives. This is a world where “no” needs to be said, but we don’t have to arm ourselves to do it. With practice and awareness, we can learn to keep our hearts open, stay loving and do what we are called to do (and not do what we are not) without putting people out of our hearts.