This week, I’m sitting down with journalist, author, and former CNN Senior Copy Editor John DeDakis to talk about the kind of loss that rearranges everything you think you know about yourself. John lost his mother first. Years later, he watched his father take his final breath right in front of him. He describes the aftermath as feeling “orphaned at 45,” and it became the moment that forced him to confront grief in a way he had avoided for years.
John walks through what it felt like to lose the last parent, how childhood memories hit differently once they’re both gone, and the surprising guilt that shows up long after you think you’re doing fine. We talk about what happens to your identity when the people who shaped you are suddenly gone, how men often grieve in silence, and how long it can take to admit that you’re not actually okay.
This conversation is raw in the best way. John doesn’t give polished, perfect answers. He tells the truth. The result is a conversation that meets you right where grief usually lives: in the quiet parts of your life that no one sees.
We get into:
• what it was like to be with his father during his final moments
• the anger and shame he carried for years
• why losing a parent in adulthood can be harder than people expect
• the ways grief sneaks up even decades later
• how writing became one of the ways he made meaning
• what helps when you can’t “move on”
• what he wishes he could tell anyone grieving right now
John’s story is honest, painful, and strangely comforting. If you’ve lost one or both parents, you’ll probably hear pieces of your own story in his. That’s the gift of these conversations. They remind you you’re not the only one trying to navigate a life without the people who raised you.
🌐 Learn more about John’s books, writing, and workshops: https://johndedakis.com/
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