In this powerful episode, I sit down with Laura to unpack the complexities of healing from childhood trauma and its impact on our adult relationships. Laura bravely shares her personal story of feeling both inadequate and "too much," revealing how these experiences shaped her approach to love and self-worth. Together, we explore the connections between past wounds and present behaviors, including people-pleasing and the fear of rejection in dating.
This conversation encourages us to embrace our feelings and recognize that true healing requires vulnerability, self-reflection, and a lot of love for our Inner Child.
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Podcast Mentioned: The Visible Women Podcast
Episode #9: Check Yourself Before You Project Yourself
Show Notes:
- 00:51 – Welcome to this week’s "therapy session" with Laura
- 03:37 – Laura shares her childhood story of feeling both not good enough and too much
- 07:23 – The role of dating in triggering abandonment wounds and fears of rejection
- 09:50 – Exploring people-pleasing as a form of self-abandonment
- 15:37 – How feelings of unworthiness block love and opportunities
- 20:33 – Laura discusses her experience with Bariatric Surgery and the projections of others
- 23:37 – Processing childhood memories to connect past and present
- 25:32 – The importance of emotional support during traumatic events
- 27:26 – How a parent’s wounds affect their ability to nurture
- 32:15 – Moving through anger and grief toward compassion and forgiveness
- 34:08 – Ego's role in blocking healing through blame and deflection
- 35:40 – Healing within relationships: a shared journey
- 37:36 – Parenting as a reflection of our own childhood experiences
- 39:40 – Understanding that healing occurs in layers, urging deeper exploration
- 41:47 – Compounding wounds and the challenge of “just getting over it”
- 43:27 – The Ego’s search for validation of unworthiness
- 44:38 – The need to stop objectifying bodies, especially those of children
- 49:10 – Laura's experience setting boundaries in a relationship with a partner with a porn addiction
- 55:28 – Recognizing that people meet us at the level of their own healing
- 57:52 – The alignment of what’s meant for you when you’re ready
- 1:01:20 – Discussing the desire for more coaching and healing sessions outdoors
- 1:01:44 – Why many women struggle with being alone
- 1:02:44 – The concept of rejection as divine protection
- 1:04:50 – Defining toxic positivity and the need to process feelings
- 1:07:59 – The search for external validation
- 1:13:53 – The power of “Bless and Release” in emotional healing
- 1:19:07 – Understanding projections
