Silence in coaching is often described as “giving the client space,” but that explanation only touches the surface. A pause can represent many different processes: reflection, emotional processing, emerging awareness, resistance, uncertainty, or a moment when a client reaches the edge of what they are able to articulate.
In this episode, I explore silence as a micro-process within the coaching relationship. We look at how coaches can notice what happens before, during, and after a pause: what the client may be moving towards or avoiding, how the relational context shapes the meaning of silence, and how staying with silence can be developmental for clients, especially in leadership/executive coaching.
We also examine the coach’s own experience of silence. The difficulty is often not knowing what question to ask next, but tolerating not knowing, lack of control, and the absence of immediate evidence that we are being useful. Developing comfort with silence is ultimately about expanding our capacity to stay present with complexity.
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I hope this episode helps you become more confident in working with silence.
Coming up next:
Preparing for Coaching Supervision. We’ll explore how to make most of coaching supervision: not only bringing challenging moments from coaching sessions, but also examining your relationships with clients, sponsors, colleagues, and the wider context of your practice. We’ll look at what is worth bringing to supervision, how to recognize meaningful patterns, and how this reflective space can support you in becoming a more aware and effective practitioner.
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