Are you always available... but invisible when you need support?
In this episode host Saeed Al Ghafri reveals why over giving destroys self-worth, sharing real stories—a drained coach client, Saeed's own boundary awakening—and 3 proven shifts: set clear boundaries, slow responses, match effort (don't exceed it).
What You'll Learn
- Why "too available" lowers standards and erases identity silently
- 3 boundary shifts: map energy drains, slow replies, match their effort exactly
- Real stories: coach client from invisible giver to valued, Saeed's career respect breakthrough
- How over availability kills respect + practical mapping exercise
- The charity exception—when to give freely vs protect yourself
Timestamps
- 2:38 - "You were never the problem, just too available"
- 3:03 - Stop blaming emotions—real issue is over giving
- 3:53 - Truth: Your heart was never the problem
- 4:24 - Always available = instant respect loss
- 5:01 - How it silently shapes (destroys) identity
- 5:50 - Lowered standards sneak up on you
- 6:58 - You lose yourself quietly
- 7:48 - Real examples: instant replies vs ghosting
- 9:08 - Coaching story: invisible → valued transformation
- 11:44 - Saeed's personal boundary awakening
- 14:52 - 3 boundary shifts revealed
- 16:38 - Slow responses = instant value shift
- 18:32 - Match effort rule (10% in,10% out)
- 20:17 - Right people stay when space created
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