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Welcome to another episode of the The Leader Manager Coach Podcast.

On this episode of Leader, Manager, Coach Rob tackles the subject of Ego. How to fight your ego and build character and develop strength and humility. Ego is notoriously hard to define, but very easy to spot.

Ego can mean an outsized sense of self importance, a malignant self absorption or an inherently entitled person or someone who believes they are better than others. Ego creates a lack of empathy a lack of humility and makes teamwork very difficult or even impossible.

Understand the pride before the fall syndrome, and if things are going well remember to ground yourself as your own success is not down solely to yourself. Rob touches on why you should not to take yourself too seriously and learn to lighten up, and you will become a much better person.

Discover how to channel your ego in the right way, to improve yourself and be humble. Learn how renowned coaches such as Bill Belichick use ego to benefit and channel it into a larger purpose, to win and why It is not about the narcissistic self.

Rob discusses the need to fall in love with the process and love the plato, how to stop seeking constant results and understand that the process is what will elevate your growth. Growth doesn't occur in the presentation of an ever growing line. But also be wary of swelling your ego, as it only identifies individuals and is destructive to the unified approach of team, we all know is successful.

If we can control and manage our egos we will all be in a better place.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• As soon as your ego gets in the way, you loose.
• Ego is your inability to control your emotions.
• In Order to achieve success, take your eyes off of yourself and onto someone else. Serve others and build your value.
• It's not how you win that counts, it's the win itself, the result. Zone in and achieve.
• What we can't do is master a physical skill at a drop of a hat, we live in a world of instantaneous information and gratification you have to learn to cherish misery.
• There's nothing wrong with being the best that you can be, become egoless and achieve to the best of your abilities.

BEST MOMENTS

• “Ego is an evil thing, humility though is the way to build confidence and ego is a hugely dangerous thing in this sport” Frank Shamrock ‘Boxing Source'
• “Your worst enemy is your Ego” John Frusciante
• “Your ego can become and obstacle to your work, if you start believing in your greatness, it is the death of your creativity.” Mariana Abramovic
• “Your eyes are fixed on the world, not on yourself or your ego” Robert Green
• “You won't make it far if you have a big ego” Greg Jackson
• “The best fighters are the most humble, your ego will keep you out of the zone” Sam Sheridan
• “Perfectionism is the ego's wicked demand, using pleasure instead of process”
• “High level leaders are self effacing individuals who deflect adulation, yet who have an almost stoik resolve to do whatever it takes to make their organisation great.” Jim Collins
• “Identifying personal ego is soaring off the branch upon which we sit, and getting increasingly anxious about the impending crash.”
• “When you don't dig your heels in and let your ego into entrenched positions, from which you mount vigorous and irrational defences you can navigate life in a much more agile way and humility for me has been a great relief.” Dan Harris

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Ryan Holiday - Ego Is The Enemy - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ego-Enemy-Ryan-Holiday/dp/1591847818

Robert Green - The 50th Law - https://www.amazon.co.uk/50th-Law-Robert-Greene-Collection/dp/1846680794
George Leonard - Mastery: The Keys to Success And Long-Term Fulfillment - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastery-Success-Long-Term-Fulfillment-Plume/dp/0452267560

Marvin Hagler vs Alan Minter

Cal Newport - Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Deep-Work-Focused-Success-Distracted/dp/0349411905

Captain D Micha Abrashoff - It's Your Ship: Management Techniques from the Best Damn Ship in the Navy -  https://www.amazon.co.uk/Its-Your-Ship-Management-Techniques/dp/1594831963

Dan Harris - 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works - https://www.amazon.co.uk/10-Happier-Reduced-Self-Help-Actually/dp/1444799045

Daniel James Brown - The Boys in the Boat - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Boys-Boat-Daniel-James-Brown/dp/1447210980

ABOUT THE HOST

Rob Ryles is a UEFA qualified coach with a League Managers Association qualification and a science and medicine background. He has worked in the football industry in Europe, USA and Africa; at International, Premiership, League, Non-league and grassroots levels with both World Cup and european Championship experience.

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