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Content Warning: Those who have experienced trauma and gaslighting should listen with caution. 

For this episode, Aniesa returns once again to the subject of gaslighting. This time looking at how children can do it to their parents, either deliberately or unconsciously. She provides examples to help you to recognise the signs and explains how to tackle this issue effectively.

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

• The signs of gaslighting are subtle. It is important to be on the lookout for them, recognise them, and take action to address this negative behaviour as soon as possible.
• A child that consistently denies something they did wrong is engaging in a form of gaslighting.
• Blaming a parent for something that they (the child) did wrong, for example saying they stole something because the parent didn't buy it for them is another example of gaslighting.
• Children tend to remember events in a selective way which can lead parents to doubting their own memories. Parents need to bear this in mind, pause and recall what really happened.
• Dealing with a child that is engaging in gaslighting is highly stressful, so be sure to take time out for yourself. You need to decompress regularly.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Kids can gaslight parents by manipulating their emotions’

‘Some kids are very good at remembering events in a way that is very selective’ 

‘You need to be very clear with your child that this behaviour is not acceptable’

‘If you are finding this is something that is not getting better, you should seek professional help’

‘It is very important to think about why this (gaslighting) is happening’

CONTACT METHOD

www.instagram.com/aniesabblore/           
www.instagram.com/sensationalkidstherapyuk/   
www.facebook.com/sensationalkidslondon

ABOUT THE HOST

Aniesa completed her degree in Occupational Therapy at the University of Stellenbosch, in South Africa. She has since been focusing on pediatrics and sensory processing and integration. She has worked across a range of pediatric fields and has extensive experience in autism, specific learning difficulties, as well as anxiety and emotional regulation. 

Aniesa has one teenage son with autism, and one with sensory difficulties. She herself was diagnosed at a late age as having ADHD and has found that understanding her neurodivergence has led to a greater connection with children and their parents. 

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