Alright, so, maybe this episode ain’t so anonymous, cause we have both hosts Nota and Few and super special, not so secret guest Madame Milkshake aka Sarah swinging by for the first group pod to talk about the light, easy to tackle topic of motherhood. In particular, we discuss being a mother while also being disordered and struggling with one’s own inner environment. How does one deal with the painful disillusionments of one’s fantasies and expectations of having a baby and the postpartum depression that follows (in either partner)? What are some of the (self-serving) reasons why disordered people decide to have families in the first place? Where are you expected to accrue the skills for parenting if your own rearing was underwhelming/neglectful/traumatic? And how can you subtly sabotage your children by seeing them as extensions of yourself or being fearful and anxious of their abandonment, therefore acting unintentionally in ways that subvert their capacity to separate, individuate, and securely step into a more autonomous existence? Just in case it sounds a tad dour, we promise that we have some laughs too, like talking about the heartwarming capitalist tale of social media disconnecting and undermining families en masse; Cluster B protecting the V.I.Ps (i.e. you and your relationships) by telling you what to be watchful for from envious, resentful third parties; answering the age-old of question of whether children are like cats and respond to discipline via squirt bottle/water gun; and how to protect your partner from having mr/ms steal-your-partner (i.e. us borderlines) swooping in by not neglecting their emotional needs!
Come on down as we discuss how to move beyond bringing along one’s own inner pain, toxicity, and simple ignorance into one’s relationship with their kids to trying to sort out our own shit to show up better for those who (should) matter most to us.
