This episode is part 2 of our conversation with Alan Harkness. It delves deep into difficult aspects of middlescence, particularly the challenges of caring for aging parents and the loss of a parent. Alan shares his personal experiences of moving his disabled mother into his home after his father's passing and the subsequent decision to transition her to an assisted living facility. He discusses the emotional strains and the importance of setting boundaries to protect his own well-being and maintain a healthy relationship with his spouse. Alan talks about the stress and emotional burden of managing his mother's health issues while trying to balance his marriage, parenting, and work responsibilities. He shares valuable lessons and advice for those going through similar situations, stressing the importance of asking for help, proactive estate planning, and taking care of oneself amidst the demands of middlescence.
At the end of the interview, we tried something new with Tina and I discussing the interview and what stood out for each of us. We then present a poem, "The Happiest Day" by Linda Pastan which beautifully articulates the feeling of knowing yet not believing that your parents will die.
