WHAT YOU’LL LEARN - 3:45 min
How to identify when you are being a victim and what to do to become a victor
WHY IT MATTERS - 4:03 min
Big things do not happen easily. They are hard, painful, and difficult. But the people who accomplish big things all have one thing in common - they refuse to be victims of their situations.
The way you respond to resistance and how you prepare yourself for bad, unexpected things in your life will determine whether you can accomplish your big thing.
THE BREAKDOWN - 6:24 min
What is a victim? A victim is a person who has something happen to them that was bad, unexpected, and out of their control. Being laid off from a job, a tornado leveling your house, or being diagnosed with cancer are all common instances of people being victims.
What is a victim mentality? Every person in the world is a victim of something at one point or another. The issue, however, arises when we continue to believe that we are powerless to do anything in our situation, and even require some other person or force to save us.
We often blame things like “the system”, “the school”, “the economy”, “the society”. Anyone but ourselves.
What is a Victor? A victor is the same as a victim except for one part - they don’t admit that everything is out of their control. A victor focuses on what they can do to make the situation better. They don’t blame anyone for the things that have happened, because it simply doesn’t matter. While they cannot control everything, a victor knows that the next step they take is 100% in their power, and the are determined to move to a future, improved state (which, by the way, is exactly what a leader is).
How do you Identify if you are a victim or a victor? It’s all based on your first reaction to a bad situation. Do you concentrate on the past? Or do you focus on your future trajectory? Do you blame the entity that is out of your control, or do you empower yourself to own the situation and make it better?
THE TIE UP - 14:10 min
Turning ideas into action and doing big things means you will have resistance - count on it. Your success in those moments is dictated by whether your focus is on the past and the things you cannot control, or on you and your future that you can control.
It starts with the small things often times. When something small doesn’t go your way, do you dwell on the bad situation? Do you let your bad 15 minutes affect your attitude and actions? Or do you instead brush it off and focus on the next thing you can do to improve the situation?
APPLICATION - 21:15 min
Make a list of the things in your life you want to change. Are you overweight? Need better sleep habits? Have bad grades? In a toxic relationship? In some bad debt? Now take that list, and figure out how to change them. Do not, and I repeat DO NOT beat yourself up over it and dwell on the bad things in your life - that’s what victims do. Rise up, develop a plan, and actually start making changes in your life for the better.
Be more prepared. Victors cannot control everything in life, but they do recognize that they can put themselves in a position to be successful by planning ahead. What do you need to plan ahead for? Do you have an emergency savings fund? Do you have the right insurance? Are you working to increase your skills and value so you do not become obsolete? Make sure you are prepared for the things life could throw at you so you continue to make progress towards your Big Thing.
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Bonus - I really like this brand because they live every day as victors, not victims. Few Will Hunt
