Tune in to today's episode to explore the topic of shame in parenting, healing low self-worth, and how to provide children with a shame-free childhood. My special guest, Maggie Nick, founder of Parenting with Perspectacles, shares her inspiring story of breaking the cycle of shame in parenting and together, we discuss the importance of breaking these cycles to ensure our children grow up feeling loved and worthy. We also talk about the transformative power of rejecting shame, fear, intimidation, and punishment as parenting tools and challenge the notion that being a "good parent" depends on having a "good" and obedient child.
Join us as we explore why is it so important to allow children to release stress and regulate themselves, the negative impact of the fear of being perceived as a bad parent if a child acts disrespectfully, how to set boundaries without shaming or threatening your children to strengthen the parent-child bond, and more.
Topics covered on Breaking the Cycle of Shame in Parenting:
- Maggie's journey as a cycle breaker and her realization that trauma and shame in parenting were the root causes of her own struggles.
- Breaking cycles of trauma and shame in parenting to ensure children grow up feeling loved and worthy.
- Exploration of the deep sadness, despair, and jealousy that can arise when providing a different, more loving parenting experience to your own children.
- Rejecting the idea of using shame, fear, intimidation, and punishment to enforce compliance and obedience in children.
- Being a "good parent" is not solely determined by having a "good" and respectful child.
- Why do you need to allow children to release stress and regulate themselves through resistance and pushing back?
- Exploring the negative impact of shame and the fear of being perceived as a bad parent if a child acts disrespectfully.
- Estrangement from a parent is a serious decision that results from severe mistreatment. People may judge estrangement because it challenges their own beliefs about maintaining relationships with their parents.
- Challenging negative self-beliefs and recognizing their origins can promote healing and prevent passing on harmful patterns to children.
- Why is it important to hold space for children to express their negative emotions and allow them to release and clear any underlying issues?
- Children who hold everything in and pretend to be fine may experience chronic dysregulation and can benefit from emotional releases.
- Parents may get triggered by their child's behavior due to their own past traumas, and it's important to recognize and heal those triggers.
- Trusting the body's response and understanding that there's always a reason behind reactions can help parents navigate challenging situations with their children.
- Reactions to children are often not about the child but about the parent's past experiences, and it's important to separate the two.
Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology. For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/07/19/breaking-the-cyc…with-maggie-nick
