In this episode, Janice shares her personal experiences navigating boundaries – the good, the confusing, and the uncomfortable. First, she offers some personal examples to define what boundaries are and why they’re so important. Then, she shares three big lessons from her not-always-easy journey of navigating boundaries, including:
- Tips for identifying our boundaries;
- Learning how to sit in the discomfort of setting boundaries; and
- Working on the deeper, underlying obstacles to practicing boundaries.
CW: This episode includes some mention of childhood trauma (see show notes).
Show notes:
- 1:08: Quick Italy trip update
- 1:50: How to connect with me + leave a rating & review of the podcast here: https://www.thesoulsworkpodcast.com/reviews/new/
- 2:50: What are boundaries anyway? A definition of boundaries + 6 types of boundaries (with examples from my personal experience)
- 12:15: Why are practicing boundaries so important?
- 14:25: My challenges with having porous boundaries + what got me started with exploring how to have healthier boundaries (letting go of a relationship)
- 20:09: 3 big lessons I’ve learned about practicing boundaries
- 20:39: Lesson 1: Identifying what my boundaries are – acknowledging it can be confusing + practical tips
- 24:27: The importance of distinguishing between a boundary and a wall
- 28:38: Lesson 2: Why practicing boundaries might feel harder before it feels good
- 32:05: Lesson 3: Intellectually knowing I “should” set a boundary is not the same thing as FEELING that I should set that boundary
- 34:19: Why being in touch with our anger is important for setting boundaries
- 36:08: How a shutdown of anger can happen with developmental trauma (*CW: Early childhood trauma)
- 39:26: How I have reconnected with my repressed anger through Somatic Internal Family Systems therapy
- 44:20: How the “anxious-attachment style” and a low sense of self-worth can make it harder to set healthy boundaries
- 47:45: It’s not just about the inner work – who are we in relationship with?
- 49:36: How to connect with Janice
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Get the list of resources here: S2|EP14: Navigating Boundaries: The Good, the Confusing, and the Uncomfortable
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Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.
DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.
