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Episode Summary: In this episode, Gemma Gladstone tackles a listener's question about break-up recovery and the elusive concept of closure. Drawing from her extensive experience as a therapist over the last 25 years, she provides practical advice on healing after a painful breakup, what to do and what not to do as well as managing lingering feelings.
Key Points:
- Introduction to Listener's Question:
- A listener, referred to as "Lisa," shares her experience of a difficult breakup with a partner who exhibited love-bombing behavior.
- Lisa is conflicted about seeking closure by expressing her feelings to her ex versus moving on without further contact.
- Understanding Love Bombing:
- Gemma explains the dynamics of love bombing and its association with narcissistic traits.
- The importance of recognizing red flags early in relationships.
- Healing Tips Post-Breakup:
- No Contact Rule: Avoid all forms of contact with the ex-partner, including social media, to facilitate healing.
- Avoid Rumination: Recognize and interrupt patterns of overthinking and counterfactual thinking to prevent emotional stagnation.
- Validate Your Emotions: Acknowledge and accept your feelings of grief and sadness as a natural part of the healing process.
- Mindfulness and Self-Compassion:
- Techniques to become aware of and manage unhelpful thoughts.
- The role of self-compassion in validating and soothing your emotional pain.
- Avoiding Rebound Relationships:
- The dangers of jumping into new relationships or casual encounters too soon.
- The importance of self-reflection and understanding personal patterns before starting a new relationship.
- The Concept of Closure:
- Differentiating between seeking resolution and seeking closure.
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