On this week's episode, I sit down with Devora Boroosan and discuss the negatives thoughts that weigh down on most mothers. We talk about the feeling of being "everything to everyone" and how it is an unattainable goal that a lot of moms hold for themselves.
It's okay to be imperfect as a mom! We are all human and we all make mistakes sometimes! Setting unrealistic goals and standards for yourself will only do more damage to your children, your relationship with your spouse, and your mental health. As long as you are trying your best your children will recognize that and love you just the same.
Get in touch with Devora if you are experiencing issues in your marriage or with your children at jewishmarriagecounselor@gmail.com
1:00 Introducing Devora Boroosan
“I am so excited to be here today with Devora Boroosan. She is an incredible Rebbetzin (title used to refer to wife of a Rabbi) down in Atlanta and she works with Women on marriage and intimacy.”
2:30 Devora’s Background
“I am lucky mommy to 7 children and at this point, nana to 10 grandchildren”
4:00 How to be Everything to Everyone while keeping sane
“To be fully present with whoever it is that you are interacting with at that time, so that they get all the beauty of you”
7:00 How One can be Present
“Do you know how many couples, I think it was like 80 something percent of couples, don’t even spend 5 minutes a day communicating outside of ‘what should I get from the dry cleaning’, ‘did you go to the bank’, ‘what time do I need to pick up the kids?’ ”
11:20 Prompts that can spark conversations with one's husband
“Whatever it is, think about him throughout the day and start a conversation of something that you know will be interesting and meaningful because you thought about him throughout the day”
17:00 Focusing on Every Member of the Family
“Tell us about your day, what was the best part, what was the hardest part, what are you grateful for, and is there something you want to share that you learned”
20:00: Wrap-Up
“And when you boil day though, the core question, who comes first, always your husband because the best gift we give our kids is a happy marriage”
