"We're not at your dinner table" referred to those focusing on tackling racism head on by having those "difficult" discussions with your family and friends when no one else is around for validation. The only real way we'll progress is to face inward and having these conversations within our circles. How do we have these conversation? How are these conversations the same across different ethnicities, races and cultures? How do they differ? How do I approach my Black loved ones? What is allyship fatigue?
