Ever notice how much energy you spend in an argument with your spouse pointing out their faults? And have you noticed how it doesn’t resolve anything but just adds fuel to the fire. That’s what we’re going to be looking at on this episode of Married By Design.
Once we settle down we need to look at ourselves. Even in that cooling down time you can begin to evaluate your errors and missteps. The problem is that it goes against our natural inclination to look at ourselves. In this episode we look in detail at the process of looking at our own faults/sins in the conflict so that we can resolve these issues.
Your homework (if you choose to accept it) is to set aside some time to make your own logs list. Really stop and honestly write down the ways you have sinned against your spouse and ask God’s forgiveness. We’ll talk about this more next week, but then consider going to your spouse and admitting your logs and asking their forgiveness. I would challenge you to commit to one week of looking at your own logs and not your spouse’s and see how the conflict dissipates. You will be amazed how that can break down the walls and accelerate the process of reconciliation.
