Confidence and Self Love:
How my moms growing confidence impacted me.
Your kids watch you, people watch you. What are they catching/experiencing between you and your spouse, your friends, your business practices, your self talk etc.
True Confidence is your belief in my ability to figure things out, its your heart, the quiet place within you. knowing who you are in Gods eyes and that your strength comes from him.
What is false confidence? physical, having the most friends, doing the most activities and social events- what you look like and how you act. Its not rooted in anything with a strong foundation and it doesn’t last.
2020 to get back to my authentic presence because real confidence isn’t structured- its freedom and flowing spontaneously.
*Big difference between changing who you are and EMBRACING as you grow into the fullness of who you are and becoming.
Sharing the wisdom of Brittany Packnett says that “Confidence is the necessary spark before everything that follows"
3 ways to crack the code of confidence: Permission, Community, Curiosity…
My aunt at a young age gave me permission… I share this personal story.
Permission :permission births confidence, its permission to defy expectations of you to blend in and do what’s expected.
*My entrepreneur journey with personal story and what it taught me.
Community: nurtures your confidence was propped up in sisterhood and friends
Curiosity: affirms confidence.
*I see daily as I coach women specifically that if I gave them a “confidence pill” SOO much would and could change in their lives.
Let go of labels people put on you
You gotta stand in front of your goals and dreams every day TRUSTING that everything you need is ALREADY in you- its your job to unlock it and STEP into it- confidence is in ACTION.
We often underestimate the importance of and as Brittany says “we see it as “a nice to have instead of a must have”
Only ways to build confidence
1.)Ask for what you want- There is a big correlation between asking what you want and asking for it.
2. Say no- it builds confidence when you can be more specific and align yourself with the great opportunities instead of going after all the “good” ones.
3. Stop apologizing for your opinion- It’s simply owning your right to see things differently than others.
4. Be a dare devil - go after your goal, take a risk
5. expand your circle -more people who know where you want to go the faster you can team up and get there.
6. Bonus: Change your story/narrative- ask the hard questions
Self Love
Self-love is an appreciation for yourself that grows from actions that are supporting our physical, psychological and spiritual growth.
Dr. Shainna Ali: Make sure you are tailoring your coping strategies based on your situation because you can cope preventatively OR when triggered there is reactive coping- the after i experienced a stressor.
for example: An adaptive way to handle high anxiety might be to go to therapy, another way is maladaptive may be avoidance, consistently and you compartmentalize and don’t deal the feelings.
A cornerstone to self love is understanding your meaning and purpose
Your boundaries being a form of self love come in different forms-
Are you willing to respect your own boundaries FIRST
Boundaries have to be intrapersonal first so you can work on the interpersonal boundaries. Gave tips for self love.
1. More Mindfulness
2. Act on what you need rather than what you want.
3. Forgive yourself
4. Live intentionally.
"I saw my differences as a weakness rather than a strength”
