Enough with the fluff. The average person thinks, getting where I want to go is solely dependent on FEELING motivated. They think, I have to be in the mood and be ready. Ready is a lie. Waiting to feel motivated never help anyone and neither does a bunch of positive quotes. Motivation is good for 15 minutes but discipline is good for the long haul.
In this episode we keep it REAL, talking about how you feel is irrelevant to getting the job done. We talk science and how the neocortex level of the brain works in terms of motivation vs. discipline.
Discipline gives you more freedom in life, its built on habits, starting small you teach the brain to cope with your childlike emotions in the limbic system. Motivation just purely inspires us to make the change.
We are motivated two ways:
1.intrinsic -engaging because we find it personally rewarding, it hits our values, you are more invested in the process rather than the reward itself. (enjoying a challenge, how your workout makes you feel, healthy meals because you enjoy cooking them).
2. extrinsic (from the outside), -we are motivated to earn a reward or to avoid punishment (bonus at work, not gettin reprimanded at work, monetary bonus, looking better in our clothes etc. )
It takes 66 days on average to form a new automatic habit.
How do you discipline yourself?
A decision to course correct. That you care about it enough that nothing will get in the way. Figuring out how much sleep you need and how much time you need in the am to have a good day
The snooze button should be called the dream killer. So get out of bed. You know what’s going to make your life better and what’s going to make your life worse. If you wrote down the things you know you should do tomorrow and every day you knew what you were suppose to do— then did it for another 3 days- 3 months, 3 years every day- your life becomes better.
JOCKO WILLINK- retired navy seal commander, new york times best seller extreme ownership: how navy seals lead and win, discipline equals freedom says that "people take the easy path of comfort, the path to misery is a comfortable path, its a path where you can waste time and money and you are a slave, you have no freedom there. you are a slave to your health, your finances, etc . "
Commitment to that has to outweigh temptation. Lean into anything that you feel that way about knowing that it will grow you and take you to where you want to be. You have to make the switch and listen to the one that says you could keep going- its not easy in the moment and discipline gets activated.
Motivation is” hey im feeling great im gonna go do this workout or knock out this project.” - tomorrow you won’t be motivated so now what do you do.
Tangible tips shared on how to put systems in place so that you follow through and build steps of discipline into your life.
When you have a problem or issue that is negative, or something bad happens you say— GOOD, here is a chance to improve myself and here is what i am going to do- its reframing it. Im gonna address it and get it solved or figure out how to make it never happen again. It tries to drag you down? relish those opportunities and get after it.
Ready is a lie. You don't need more information, more degrees, certainly not more excuses. This may just be the most encouraging slap in the face of truth you needed lol.
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Podcast Music: Laura Eister
