We need to acknowledge why it may be hard to talk about our feelings and still hold the space to process it anyway- because we can handle it. Processing pain and grief, in our own unique timing of course is essential for forward movement. Any part of you that says otherwise is just trying to keep you safe and protect you from feeling hurt. I can see why parents would not want to talk about the pain of the past. Maybe it's too painful to remember. Maybe it's easier to forget. That gets to be valid too. The body memory however does keep the score. When talking feels too painful, there is always breath work and other healing modalities like Accudetox ear acupuncture that allows for an emotional release without having to engage cognitively. The reason releasing emotional baggage is so important is so that it does not come through unconsciously or inadvertently in our behaviors. If you ever want to know how someone has been treated, take a look at their own behavior(s). Look at the ways they talk to themselves. Look at how they treat the ones they love or the ones closest to them. This gives you a window of understanding into how they have been treated and perhaps what they are moving through. This is also an excellent lens to lend compassion through because it shows how it did not start with us (or our parents). www.magicmomentsplay.com
