When we feel threatened by the behavior our children are displaying, (and believe me- we will!) it can be tricky to have ownership over our own feelings of lack, scarcity and insecurity in the moment before we project this onto our kids. You see, kids feel subconsciously nervous to be emotionally flooded with the feelings you are failing to take ownership of. Often parents flood difficult emotions onto their children. If a child overhears a parent talking about them in a comparing way, they can feel that lack of personal power and control. Our child feels subconsciously nervous that we might love them more if they did those things… It hurts our kids more than we think, and more than they let on. When kids experience that wave of sudden embarrassment, they can be nervous that you will do it again… and remembering what we know about choosing attachment over authenticity, they may abandon their feelings in future instances to say that their feelings don’t matter. Which is sad- because down the road when our children are at a party, are we going to want them to trust how they feel about something, or are we going to want them to trust what others are telling them and how they should feel? We have to start now. http://www.magicmomentsplay.com
