Tell me more! When kids ask us questions, do they really want to know the answer OR are they trying to communicate how they feel? Tricky and also very informative! When kids have wonders and curiosities, these can sometimes mask the feelings underneath. What they are wanting most from us is for us to show them and to demonstrate to them that questions what represent our feelings underneath are so valid for what they are. By demonstrating unconditional acceptance, it does require us to step outside of our comfort zone. It also requires us to have feelings. Yikes! What if I don't always like how I'm feeling? Trusting that bringing a voice to WHATEVER iT iS THAT YOU ARE EXPERiENCiNG gets to be enough!! You are a rockstar, and better yet- let's say you do perceive that you have "messed up" in some sense; what a beautiful permission slip for your children to do the same. AND to be gentle and compassionate to yourself. I believe that true confidence comes from messing up and learning to be resilient from making mistakes. I believe that productivity and performance seeking from an external force measuring what I've done is not as powerful as going within to foster our own ability to hold ourselves and others completely. I can have a willingness to let go of what is holding me back and accepting where I currently am. I can help and support wholeness and examine what I believe about myself and how I can challenge my beliefs to see if they align with what I want most in life. When I am aligned, those around me gravitate towards their alignment as well. Allow space for curiosity- like really truly. Allow ourselves and our kids for more time to process their distress through questions that bubble up to the surface.
