When feelings get hurt or experiences of pain surface, or when disappointment, dishonesty, devastation and unfinished business comes to the light -how often do you attempt to handle, cope or resolve? When feeling emotionally threatened, it is not safe to take emotional risks. Feelings of fear, nervousness and hopeless may arise and have no place to go. If emotional vulnerability is not established in a parent child relationship, there is a high chance that children will feel misunderstood and guarded to protect their feelings from being seen or hurt. Emotional security is a top priority when it comes to rupture and repair. Are attachments secure enough to take risks? Will people still show up unconditionally after you share what you need? Will needs be perceived as acceptable and worthy? These are all real concerns that are valid and true! Everyone that we come in contact with fits somewhere on an emotional spectrum from an emotional threat to emotional neutrality to emotional comfort. Many factors can make up what allow the feelings of safety and trust. Maybe a genuine connection, maybe a relationship sparks, maybe a long term friend. We usually find ourselves in conflict when someone in the relational dynamic is triggered and cannot tolerate the actions or behaviors of those who are in relationship with them before they are able to communicate their need. Here are some of my considerations: I am worthy of rupture and repair. I am willing to be vulnerable about repairing. I am willing to fully hear all sides and perspectives. I feel willing to take ownership for my role. I care about my emotional health and well-being. I am willing to take emotional risk with those I trust and care about and those who trust and care about me. I am willing to take accountability for my experience in order to grow and thrive into the ever evolving versions of self. I am willing to express genuinely. I am willing to move my own energy and feeling. How can I support you in your journey of rupture and repair? http://www.magicmomentsplay.com
