Is working hard the virtue it’s cracked up to be or is it damaging us? Conversely, is waiting for situations to feel easy holding us back from what we might accomplish if we only put in some elbow grease?
Episode Highlights
00:39 If you work harder… You’ll get more done… You’ll get better… You’ll be more respected… You’ll get more sympathy…
01:45 There are so many instances in life where working harder will not resolve the issue at all and isn’t even relevant to the situation, yet we still default to thinking if the person in that situation isn’t working hard, then despite the irrelevance of hard work, it’s somehow their fault.
02:18 The counter-movement born in opposition to the edict of “work hard and things will happen for you” is “if it’s meant to happen for you, it will be easy and flow to you.”
02:50 We feel so frustrated and betrayed by life when our hard work doesn’t pay off or things don’t “work out.”
03:05 To feel some relief from our pain, we comfort ourselves by telling ourselves that we should follow our bliss, and we aren’t supposed to work hard at anything that’s meant for us.
03:53 If we just let it all go, everything will flow.
04:00 It’s just as dangerous as overworking to give up all your agency and authority to letting outside circumstances dictate your life.
04:30 When life doesn’t deliver our bliss, we get upset and wonder why the laws of manifestation are broken for us and nothing is happening the way we want it to.
04:40 No matter what we’re disappointed by, we have the tendency to assume that life is working better for everyone else but us and get judgy about it.
05:58 So much frustration and jealousy with others stems from feeling confused and annoyed that things aren’t happening the way we want for ourselves.
06:20 Most of us are not A#1 Experts at loving ourselves.
07:20 A story of life: Some bullshit happens to us and we decide it’s not safe to be here, and we stop loving and accepting ourselves because when we did that we weren’t safe from pain.
07:30 One strategy says, if I work really hard I can figure life out and make it better. The other strategy says, if I can just let this go and not care so much, I can make this better. Both are looking for relief.
08:00 Both the “Work Hard” and the “Let God Handle It” strategies are looking for outside circumstances to change before we allow ourselves to love ourselves.
09:20 There’s so much emotional energy and turbulence around our ability to just be with ourselves as we are.
09:30 It’s ok to be in struggle. It’s ok to want something and not have it yet. It’s OK to get what we want. It’s ok to get it and not want it anymore once we have it. It’s OK. All of it.
09:50 We are nothing if not changeable.
09:58 Whatever we want today, we probably aren’t going to want it the same way tomorrow or next week or ten years from now. We change all the time and so do our desires.
10:10 Don’t get caught in the trap of believing that your worth is caught up in how hard you work towards things or how easy it is for you to get the things you want.
11:25 Even if you’re living a hard life that started hard, and is still hard, and looks like it’s going to continue to be hard, it’s OK to appreciate yourself, to find joy, and to believe with a
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