Confidence is a sliding scale of belief in ourselves and our ability to get something done. Most of us have a variety of beliefs about ourselves in different areas of our lives.
If you rate yourself highly in an area, you are confident that you can get the job done, and no matter what it’s going to get done. And if you rate it very lowly, you don’t believe you can complete the task and you believe things will get in the way of you achieving that goal.
When we look for things that we 100% know we can do, like brushing our teeth in the morning, it’s a way we can find proof that we can do things. Confidence doesn’t have to look like a heroic movie with you dodging explosions while saving puppies – it often looks like doing regular stuff and not even noticing that we did it because it’s so easy and obvious for us.
When we practice the feeling of knowing we’re capable and what it feels like when we do things we just assume we can do or do well, it gives us a taste of what it will feel like when we accomplish the huge thing we’re scared that we can’t do yet.
Practicing this experience of being with yourself during simple easy tasks gives you the fortitude to keep trying until you are competent and feel great about a new skill that feels hard.
Sometimes building up resilience and through that, confidence, is a science of eliminating excuses.
So many of us want all of our goals to be achieved overnight, but the reality is that increasing our confidence takes time and we need that confidence to keep going and complete our goals. I try as much as I can to figure out how I need to feel and what do I need to believe about myself, in general, to get going doing the thing I am avoiding.
From there, the goals begin to be accomplished. But it takes showing up again and again, and that takes building my confidence daily on each of these tasks.
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