A year of lockdowns and halted plans has given us an unusual opportunity to explore patience and what we gain when we embrace it. How has this great pause benefited you? What have you lost or sacrificed? Patience might not feel normal or natural, but there are times when it happens to us. Times like that teach us a lot about ourselves and what we value.
Episode Highlights
00:22 We are told patience is a virtue and we should have more of it, but most of us struggle with this.
00:30 Being patient doesn’t come easily all of the time. But are there moments when being patient DOES feel natural?
02:09 Time felt like it slowed down in those moments in nature. The experience itself was made of patience.
02:25 Modern life doesn’t offer a lot of opportunities for patience and seems to actively push us to do more faster and to be satisfied as quickly as possible.
03:03 When we cram all our transformation and ideas into one small moment as fast as possible it feels bad and then we give up and are left wanting more.
03:12 Actual transformation does take place in one instant, but our challenge is to be present in that moment for it.
03:30 My tattoo apprenticeship mentor Adam taught me that our instinct is always to rush filling in what we know how to fill in – but we do a better job and finish faster when we slow down.
05:11 When I’m able to become present in the moment I am in, time falls away and my senses take over.
05:30 Impatience is our desire to have already done everything already without even knowing why we want it.
05:50 This causes suffering and makes us miss out on our moments without even being aware we are missing them.
06:19 The slowdown of the pandemic ended up providing a big sigh of relief for lots of people that we could finally slow down without fearing being judged for it.
07:17 Having so much space and time made us focus on what we chose to surround ourselves with and if we liked what we had built in our lives so far.
07:30 Suddenly it was in our face, and we had nowhere to go.
08:15 Even with the difficulties the year has brought, having time to experience it has felt somehow better than rushing the way we used to.
08:56 It has been this rare moment where the world is not demanding that we have to do more than what we already are.
09:52 In order to be present like this, there was a lot we sacrificed
10:40 We have a simultaneous experience of terror combined with hope and appreciation right now.
11:17 We have an opportunity when working on our own to set things up in a way that is supportive to us or not.
12:04 Positive change really starts with how we approach ourselves and how compassionate we can be to ourselves as we feel everything that comes up.
12:12 What if we could look at our life and compassionately say, my life is taking the time it takes, and that’s OK.
12:25 It might take a while to understand what right is for me, but patience is the ingredient that allows me to discover that.
12:55 We might not think of patience as natural to exert, but it happens to us in the pauses.
13:17 How can we be fully present and there for ourselves right now, for all we want to create, have, and be?
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