How do you define your healthy boundaries? As empaths, this has a lot to do with deciding how much responsibility you take for yourself and allow others to have.
Episode Highlights:
00:30 Most of us define boundaries as a line in the sand past which we won’t tolerate something, and it tends to be emotionally charged.
01:40 If you’re a highly sensitive person you probably spend a lot of time contemplating your boundaries and trying to strengthen them.
02:10 When you’re empathic, you tend to assume that you’re responsible for what others around you are feeling because you feel it so strongly and after all, you were there.
02:30 When I was a kid, it was hard to see where I ended and the world began, so I felt responsible for EVERYTHING that happened even if objectively that couldn’t be possible.
02:40 A boundary is where one thing ends and another begins, which seems simple – and yet it’s so hard to apply this concept to people because it’s hard to say where we actually end and otherness begins.
03:30 When people talk about wanting better boundaries, they usually are saying they want to be clearer on where their energy ends and not absorbing so much of other people’s energy.
06:00 Could having a good boundary be about deciding what emotions or energy we want to pick up from others and what energy and emotions we will pass on?
07:30 It feels really good to decide with authority that you can feel how you want to feel, and others get to feel how they want to feel, and it doesn’t have to be the same.
08:00 Choosing your energy in your space and letting others have theirs relieves you of the empathic misunderstanding that if you feel it, you have to fix it.
09:20 Sometimes we pick up someone else’s sadness or worry and we think we’ve freed the other person by taking on their pain when really, we’ve only duplicated their pain in ourselves.
10:39 Just for now, it’s 100% ok that I feel whatever I’m feeling, and it’s 100% ok for everyone else to feel what they’re feeling, too.
11:50 Empaths: it’s OK not to match what anyone else is feeling. It’s Ok to feel and understand what they feel, and choose not to also feel that way.
13:00 Children teach us that we as humans are capable of moving through emotions quickly and we don’t have to hold onto them or make them a habit.
13:50 Having a healthy boundary means I can sense when I am vibrating at the same energy level as someone else and make a conscious decision about how I want to vibe, and then go there.
16:30 If you can say YES to whatever you are feeling your emotions tend to smooth out.
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