Do you know anyone who seems to be addicted to drama? Don’t answer that, we already know.
But why do we keep having the same conflicts with certain people over and over? What’s the problem, and are we playing a role in it, even if unwittingly?
In this episode me and Tiff’s discussion into the Games People Play was inspired by the late Psychiatrist Eric Berne, pioneer of Transactional Analysis and the author of “Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships.”
What are the ego states and roles we often assume in our relationships that create patterns of thoughts, beliefs and behaviors which construct barriers to meaningful connection? Perhaps an even more important question than why do others do this, is why do we? Especially when it often brings about the experiences and outcomes in our relationships that we don’t want. This is one of the many examples of why self-awareness is the key to or the lock on our growth and development. If we are going to make positive changes in our relationships, we have to make positive changes in the way we relate. Not only with others, but to ourselves as well. Do we see ourselves objectively? It’s not uncommon for us to play similar games when communicating with ourselves as we do with others. How do we recognize these patterns and is there a way to change them?
I know you can’t image this, but me and Tiff do go on a few tangents here and there. So, this is going to be part on of our two-part Games People Play series. In the first part we discuss the ego states, and how people see us vs. how we believe we are showing up. In the next part we will discuss some of these games and explore some possible motives behind them. We hope you enjoy the episode as much as we enjoyed making it.
And if you are in fact enjoying these episodes, check out Tiffanee’s podcast, Roll with the Punches. It’s stating the obvious, but she’s a dynamic and inquisitive host, with a long list of extraordinary guests.
We both appreciate you and look forward to being with you each week!
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