1:30 People can violate the normative values and standards of society to the point where they forfeit the privilege of being allowed to remain a member of that society.
2:45 Groupthink vs constructive disagreement
Only when you understand the ideas of other people do you really understand your own
Insecurity drives us to shut down dissenting voices
5:00 It’s us vs. them, and you’re them: BYE!
Children have a fresh way of looking at things, and are unafraid to ask why
The older we get, the more threatened we are to reevaluate our world view
9:00 How do you deal with people you have to deal with who are not open to discussion?
Oblique approach rather than frontal assault
11:00 What outcome do you hope to achieve in your discussion?
Communication vs. conversation
Dialogues of the deaf
15:00 We aren’t trained to listen; we’re planning our response
What has happened to curiosity?
The I in ETHICS is Inquisitiveness vs. willful ignorance
Sometimes, our lives are too cluttered for us to be able to listen
Sometimes society cancels us for asking questions
22:00 No one ever died from a question
The real safe space is where we’re free to explore and investigate
24:00 Are we justified not to listen to people like White Supremacists or should we give everyone the benefit of the doubt first?
Isn’t labelling a form of cancelling?
28:00 Is it ever evil to listen?
Ideas can influence us for good and bad
What’s the difference between filtering and cancelling?
32:30 How do we prepare ourselves to listen to dangerous ideas without making ourselves vulnerable to them?
Young people are not mature enough to deal with complex ideas
We have to protect children (and ourselves) from ideas they aren’t ready to handle
36:30 We deal with kleptomaniacs differently from how we deal with thieves
Not every thief is a kleptomaniac -- there are levels of culpability
38:45 Steven Covey: Most people don’t listen with the intent to understand but with the intent to reply
How should we listen: First, paraphrase
41:00 Why don’t we want to listen?
Do we have to like someone to listen?
43:00 Sometimes it’s better to let people have their opinions and not engage them
Set ground rules
47:00 When we listen first, we encourage others to listen to us
48:00 Gossip vs. venting vs. necessary information
We have to take all the variables into account
50:45 Ronald Reagan denied screen actors’ achievement award
54:00 We have to anticipate how our word will affect others -- am I serving my audience?
55:00 Word of the Day: antediluvian -- before the Flood
Without a civil society, society descends into destruction
57:00 Ask yourself: whom do I want to cancel? How can I listen instead?
