What words do you say to your athlete after a long game? What words do you say to yourself throughout your daughter’s sports journey?
Truth be told, it’s not the BIG wins that are going to be ingrained in your daughter’s memory, it’s the little moments. Looking back at my experience with my mom, I hardly remember those wins. I always remember the car ride to the tournaments with my mom and stopping for a meal at McDonald’s'. And that car ride home when I’m exhausted. Those talks with my mom were my comfort and my safe place
And it's those little moments that you think don't matter at all. Those are the ones that are going to stick out to your daughter the most.
That is just one of the 7 daily reminders I want to discuss with you in this episode. So if you're a sports mom, you have to take note because here are the 7 daily reminders that you might want to get tattooed on yourself!
These seven reminders might be the ones you need to better support your daughter and give her the opportunities she needs.
So, let’s start!
1. Her sport is what she does, not who she is. Make sure she understands how much you care about her, regardless of how well she performs.
2. Walk beside her on the path. Don't shape the path. We like being able to 'control' and 'correct' things, and that’s not gonna work. Our role is to walk beside our daughters on the path, not to shape it.
3. Let her fight her battles, but give her the tools to do it. Give her the tools she needs to overcome the obstacles she faces in her sport. You can only say and do so much, but it will never replace the job she must complete on her own.
4. It's okay for her to be disappointed or any other emotion she's experiencing. She will not always be victorious. Allow her to feel what she feels, and validate her feelings.
5. The little moments are actually the big moments. It's the moments on the journey to the tournament that count. The car journeys. The food. The room you provided for her. I'll be your shoulder to cry on. These are the memories that will stick with your daughter.
6. Remember the end goal. The purpose of athletics isn't for her to win everything (though that would be lovely!) but to help her achieve her goals. It's helpful in shaping her, allowing her to fail while also instilling confidence in her.
7. You need support too. This is her story, but it might be yours as well.
Make sure you have intentional support to aid her because she is observing you and modeling her confidence after you!
We can't expect our daughters to know what to do if we don't provide them with the necessary tools. You are in the same boat! Perspective, support, community, and coaching are all things you'll need. Athletes who have mothers who do this have an advantage.
Keep in mind these seven reminders that you’d want to get tattooed in you!
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