Exhausted from setting boundaries that people keep crossing?
The problem isn't them—it's that what you're calling "boundaries" are actually attempts at control. And control never works.
In this episode, we break down the difference between:
- Boundaries** (what you hold up against yourself)
- Sovereignty** (choosing what you will and won't participate in)
You'll discover:
✓ Why "you need to respect my boundaries" isn't actually a boundary
✓ The 4 questions to discern real harm vs. nervous system triggers
✓ How to stop trying to control others and start making conscious choices
✓ Practical scripts you can use today: "I don't stay in conversations where there's yelling"
✓ The "flaky friend" and "critical parent" scenarios—how to set limits without villainizing
✓ The 6-step practice to reframe control impulses into sovereign choices
This episode includes:
- Body-based exercises to feel the difference in your nervous system
- The 3 pillars of sovereignty: self-knowledge, accountability, regulation
- How to know when to leave, when to speak, and when to pause
- A grounding practice to integrate what emerges
For high-functioning professionals exhausted from:
→ People-pleasing patterns
→ Boundaries that don't stick
→ Resentment from unspoken expectations
→ Not knowing if you should stay or go
No therapy-speak shields. No rigid formulas. Just honest tools for real life.
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Mentioned in this episode:
- Boundaries vs. control framework
- The 4 discernment questions
- Harm vs. trigger diffe
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