Why does resilience feel so heavy? Because you're not actually feeling the pain you're bypassing it.
In this final episode of the Emotional Sobriety series, I draw a bright line between understanding your patterns and actually embodying change. Real healing doesn't happen in the head alone, and "high-vibe only" positivity isn't healing it's just another way to numb.
I share how I used spiritual concepts like armour, why "I'm feeling anger" invites space while "I am angry" collapses you into the emotion, and what changes when you stop thinking your way through feelings and actually drop into your body.
What is emotional sobriety? The capacity to feel the full range of emotions: anger, fear, grief, joy without numbing, avoiding, or being hijacked by them. It's self-regulation without codependency. It's choosing your response instead of reacting from your wounds.
I teach the first of three pillars Awareness and why awareness plus a pause equals presence. You'll hear Viktor Frankl's "space between stimulus and response" and how to widen that space so choice becomes possible in the moments that matter most.
The practice: A guided mindful check-in you can use anytime you feel overwhelmed. Three questions: What am I feeling? Where do I feel it in my body? What does it need from me?
The goal isn't perfection or never being triggered. It's freedom the freedom to feel without being destroyed by it, to be fully human without making it mean something's wrong with you.
Stop thinking about healing. Start feeling it. Join the Emotional Sobriety Workshop at liftoneself.com for the full framework and somatic techniques.
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