1.0 Communication is a transaction, we exchange ideas and emotions. How we were brought up may have influenced our transactional style and usually shows up during conflict and affects how we tend to resolve conflicts in our relationships. There are three ego states people often function from:
#Parent ego state
#child ego state
#adult ego state
Take a listen 🎶 and figure out which style you tend to operate from the most.
Transactional Analysis (TA) is a personality theory which helps us to better understand personalities and behaviours, in a nutshell it enables us to understand who we are, how we communicate, what may have shaped us to be that way and understand the people we live and work with; their personalities and behaviours, we actually get to understand the psychological make-up of people.
Through TA re lebelela: Maikutlo, Boitsholo, Ditiro, Mekgwa,go bua (Attitudes, feelings & behaviour), understanding this helps us to be aware of our communication & whether or not we are assertive. TA e re thusa go tlhaloganya batho botoka.
The first five years of our lives are critical: what we experience and observe as children forms our belief systems.
When shouted at and scolded as a child how did you react? Did you cry or shout back?
Now today as an adult when things don’t go your way do you find yourself shouting back or crying/sulking?
2.0 Communication and Transactional Analysis :
Transaction is not only common in finances, communication involves an exchange, engagement between people; it’s a give and take which requires skills. We communicate in different states;
EGO STATES. Eric Berne (1961, 1968, 1971) talks of transactional analysis and many other authors.
#How do you transact (rhetoric questions) O abelana jang megopolo, o hetolana/buisana jang le ba bangwe?
#Do you take time to pause, reflect & analyse your communication?
#Do you take time to think before you utter a word?.
2.1 As alluded to earlier, there are three (3) Ego states we find ourselves communicating in:
Child Ego – from remnants of the past
Parent Ego – Play out of old feelings/emotions which were imbibed in childhood (first 5 years)
Adult Ego – based on reality & assessment of current situation that unfolds
# which style do you tend to use more, especially when you are upset?
Do you shout at people, your partner etc?
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