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This is a "don't leave home without it" practice. This is a special one because it's not meant to be done in a safe, quiet place. It's a self-compassion practice, which are meant to help you meet your moments of greatest struggle.

Yeah, service is painful and emotionally challenging. And in case you're saying "Yeah...and so is, like, all of life", that's exactly why you need to always have this in your back pocket.

Customers can be cruel. Even if they weren't we make mistakes that invite us to lash ourselves. 

What if our biggest, most painful inner challenges only need to be moments of emotional discomfort that pass without leaving an imprint?

By default, we tense up and speak viciously to ourselves, furthering the intensity. And also, more deeply carving beliefs that we are lowly and deficient (too easy of a temptation in the service role). What if we could break that pattern and meet the reactions we have with the kindness and support of a good friend?

This episode is a step-by-step guide to meeting your inner challenges with understanding, support and care rather than the self-condemnation we so often subject ourselves to. It's a game-changer. Follow the instructions, get comfortable with the approach and get into the habit of doing this on your own.

Below is a brief summary of how to quickly move through this practice on your own. 

1. Call it: Recognize a moment of struggle (emotional discomfort). Tell yourself "this is struggle. It's natural and universal.
2. Notice: What you're thinking and feeling with openness, curiosity, and non-rejection. 
3. Inquire: Ask yourself, "what kind of support do I need right now?" Understanding? Care? Motivation? Encouragement?)
4. Serve Yourself: Speak to yourself as a friend would. Provide the support you would normally outsource. See how much of a caring feeling you can offer yourself. Embrace the struggle as a mentor to yourself that knows you are growing and learning

The effects of this practice on happiness, energy levels, growth, success, you name it, are unquestionable. Deliver a powerful dose of self-compassion to yourself, disrupt the usual cycle of negativity and you'll feel capable of handling anything (after all, challenges are usually only scary because we expect to abuse ourselves through the process).

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