I'm tired of family who belittles and berates me for my choices, do you have any suggestions?
First, let's get on the same page. . .
Even the worst moms we know are most likely doing THEIR best.
You may feel like you are doing an AMAZING job, and your kids may not receive it that way.
You may also feel like you are doing an AWFUL job of momming, and down the road you may find that your kids didn't see it the same way.
Sarah Mackenzie often said, "It's not all up to us, we have to be faithful and we have to allow God to work." You have to show up the best you can, and you have to allow God to work.
Beginning with people who belittle and berate you for your choices. . .
Unless someone is directly caring for your children, their opinion doesn't matter.
Children are here to humble us!
Ending with family. . .dig into WHO is doing the belittling. Is it coming from a place of love? If not, if it's true berating and belittling, it doesn't deserve space on your bookshelf.
Sometimes, when family sees you doing things differently, they may see it as a direct affront to their choices. We need to remember that it's ok for us to make different decisions for our family. What you discern together with your husband is the MOST important (more important than what your extended family thinks).
Practice self awareness. ARE you making good choices? If yes, great! If no, try to do much better!
You will come across toxic people, and a lot of people can be well intentioned but poorly executed, and then there are people who are purely toxic.
Brittany doesn't generally engage with people who are challenging her decisions. She will listen, but will set firm boundaries. She and her husband prayerfully and thoughtfully discuss their choices and they take responsibility for them.
As parents, we make millions of choices. All we can do is the best we can do, learn from what happens, and then pivot if necessary.
Did you ever feel like just being a mom is not enough in this society, like you always have to have your hand in something else other than raising the most important people in your life in order to be on the same level as everyone else?
I (Tiffany) say yes! I never planned on having children, and if I did, I figured I would be a working mom. I DID work up until kid #3, and then a series of events led to me staying home.
Brittany came from a long line of women who were stay-at-home moms. She grew up thinking that she would be a stay-at-home mom. This is a long game, and a marathon-not a sprint. Brittany has p
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