Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! Today is episode 2 of a three part series that focuses in on trauma.
In today's episode, we are looking into the 8 Signs of Trauma. Trauma can look different for each and every person depending on their life-this is not a check list! This is an opportunity for you to look inward and stop asking “What is wrong with me?” and start asking “What happened?”. It’s time to turn your wounds into wisdom and your pain into power.
This isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.
The 8 Signs [01:30]
- “Nobody goes through the games of life without some form of trauma.” [1:45]
- “The first sign of trauma is low self worth-this is especially true with childhood trauma. We don’t have a capacity for reasoning and logic, so we assume anything bad that happens is because of us.” [02:15]
- “The second sign is intense fear of failure. Any small mistake, flaw, or weakness makes you feel overwhelmed.” [03:30]
- “Unhealed trauma is like walking around with an open wound, trying to bandage it by numbing and distracting ourselves but it doesn’t work.” [4:00]
- “The fear of success is the third sign. It is associated with early abandonment. It’s a fear of judgement and rejection.” [4:45]
- “Number four is micromanaging. Planning everything to a tee, and having a need for control. If you go into panic when things don’t go as plan, it stems from helplessness. It can show up as hypervigilance.” [5:15]
- “Number five is an inability to celebrate change. Our wounds cause us to feel unworthy.” [6:30]
- “Number six is hurting yourself and others. Unhealed trauma causes you to isolate yourself, lose your temper, and react instead of respond.” [7:45]
- “Number seven is an inability to ask for help. The fear of judgement and rejection stopped me from reaching out and getting help. Just know that not asking for help is not a sign of strength.” [9:30]
- “The last sign is the inability to concentrate and be present. You overthink to avoid dealing with emotions. It pushes you to live in your head instead of feeling and healing.”[10:15]
You Are Not Broken [12:00]
- “Just know that when people are projecting their pain, it’s not about you. Don’t internalize it!” [13:00]
- “Observe, don’t absorb.” [13:40]
- “You are not broken, you are wounded.” [14:30]
- “Allow trauma to be your teacher. Suffering is school. Take the lessons.” [15:10]
- “Turn your wounds into wisdom and your pain into power.” [15:40]
- “It’s time to do the work. It’s time to feel safe in your body again.” [18:30]
- “Create a life that you don’t need to escape from.” [19:00]
Work with Claire:
https://www.clairefealy.com/master-your-mindset
https://www.clairefealy.com/mindsetmasteryminimind
