Have you ever felt completely drained from trying to be everything to everyone? That exhaustion isn't just fatigue—it's a symptom of something deeper.
After taking a much-needed break to focus on my own healing journey, I've returned with powerful insights about the guilt we feel when putting ourselves first. The martyr mindset—believing we're more lovable when we're constantly doing for others—is actually a losing game that leaves us running on empty.
What's truly fascinating is discovering that this people-pleasing, overachieving behavior isn't actually the problem—it's a solution we've created to address a deeper wound. At the core lies a belief that love must be earned, that our worth is tied to our achievements rather than our existence.
The path forward isn't about becoming more disciplined with self-care; it's about healing the belief that you must prove your worthiness. Love isn't a feeling—it's trust and respect built through time and attention. When you prioritize yourself, you begin building that relationship with yourself first, giving from a place of overflow rather than overwhelm.
If this message resonates deeply and you're ready to accelerate your healing journey, I'm currently accepting new clients and offering a summer special on breakthrough sessions. Connect with me on Instagram @clairefealymindsetcoach to transform your relationship with yourself and reclaim the energy you've been giving away. Or drop me an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com.
