Why does betrayal feel like it shatters not just your present, but rewrites your entire past? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Mr Jay—Certified Betrayal Trauma Practitioner and Intrapersonal Relationship Coach—to explore the hidden layers of betrayal, from infidelity to grief to the resurfacing of old wounds.
We unpack why some people turn to affairs as a way to “feel alive,” the isolating impact of secrecy on partners, and why betrayal triggers are more than memories—they’re full-body flashbacks that demand nervous system care.
This isn’t about quick fixes. Together, we explore the real tools for healing: EMDR, EFT tapping, trauma-informed yoga, and visualization. Mr Jay shares how to rebuild trust through transparency, set boundaries rooted in values, and create self-care rituals that become non-negotiables rather than luxuries.
Through the lens of kintsugi—the Japanese art of golden repair—we also discuss how couples who choose to mend can create relationships more honest, resilient, and compassionate than before. And if walking away is the path, the lesson remains the same: healing begins within.
If you or someone you love is navigating betrayal or deep relational pain, this episode offers a steady, hope-filled map forward.
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