How to give less f***s about what others think of you:
Step 1. Recognise the source of your fear:
Understanding where your fear of judgement comes from can help you gain a non emotional perspective and identify underlying issues that may be contributing.
Why do you care? Where does this stem from? What does worrying achieve?
Step 2. Challenge negative self talk:
When we are afraid of judgement, we often engage in negative self-talk that reinforces our fears.
Challenge negative thinking and replace this with positive affirmation.
You are actually in control of that inner dialogue after all.
It takes just as much effort to entertain worry and concern as it does to indulge in the alternative.
Step 3. Reframe your perspective:
Instead of focusing on the negatives or what could go wrong, try reframing your perspective to see the situation in a different light.
For example, instead of worrying about what others may think of you, focus on the opportunities for growth and learning.
Tunnel vision for your goals can help to drown out any distractions or background noise.
Step 4. Take action:
Taking action, no matter how small, can help build confidence and reduce fear.
Start with something that is challenging but achievable, and gradually work your way up.
Stagnance is the enemy of progress. And fear often leads to stagnance.
Don't allow fear to keep you frozen still, in the same spot, forever.
Step 5. Surround yourself with your people:
Surround yourself with those who are supportive and encouraging.
Seek out positive role models who inspire you to be your best self.
Distance yourself from pessimistic personalities and those who seem to constantly tear you down.
You CAN choose to separate yourself tactfully. If it gives you the ick - DO NOT engage.
Remember, overcoming your fear of judgement is a process and requires awareness, time and effort.
With persistence and a change of perspective, you can choose to live a completely different life.
