Your personality might not be your personality. Sometimes it’s a survival strategy you perfected in an unsafe home, the version of you that kept the peace, stayed small, made everyone laugh, or never needed anything. Andrea and Kyle pull apart the idea of the "false self and true self," starting with a blunt reality: every child needs to be themselves and to be loved, and when those needs collide, authenticity often gets traded away for attachment and safety.
We get specific about what that trade can cost in adulthood: exhaustion, hollowness, confusion about what you actually want, and the nagging sense that the “real you” is trying to come back online. We also name a connection many people feel but rarely say out loud: unwanted sexual behavior, pornography use, hookups, and fantasy can become an escape hatch when you’re still living from a protective persona. If fantasy offers control, quick dopamine, or the feeling of being seen, there’s a story underneath, not a verdict about your worth.
From there, we shift into what healing can look like when safety comes first. We talk about curiosity without judgment, noticing condemning voices, and letting Jesus meet the parts of you that learned to hide.
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We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope!
Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org
Free Resources for you!
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)
