Maybe this is Step One for you today. Maybe even just listening to us talk about desire, pleasure, wanting is your first step towards sexual wholeness.
We pray it is.
Join us as we explore more of our sacred design through the lens of desire. Let’s focus the lens a bit more on what Low Desire is, what it feels like, and how to understand it.
Please be aware that you may want to protect little ones ears as well as your listening space for the content we’ll cover today.
Highlights:
You may feel ambivalent about your wants and desires. You are not alone. Many of us have turned off our “wanter” because our needs as a child were not met, were not recognized. And so you may have trouble naming or feeling a desire.
“Many of us have a truckload of unmet desires in the basement of our heart.” Jay Stringer
We may dismiss desire by saying, “I don’t have it. I don’t have it like he does or she does. Will I ever be desired? Am I desirable? I didn’t get affection at home. Vulnerability wasn’t accepted. I don’t want to want.” These are truthful statements to say and then pray through.
Be compassionate to yourself. There is a story that connects desire, lack of desire, too much desire. It’s ok to pause and take a look and connect some of the dots in your life.
Arousal cycles: Know your cycle, be patient with yourself.
Give yourself permission to talk about sex, pleasure, desire.
When desire feels “low” to you, consider getting back to basics: How are you taking care of your body? How are you talking to it? How are you feeling? Are you being harsh or condemning?
Our bodies are complex. As we come to understand our bodies, we try not to shame our bodies.
“I deserve as much sexual pleasure as I can have and I’m worth the time it takes. I might need a back rub or I might just need to take a break but I can ask for this. I matter.” Charity of Restored2More
Homework: Some Questions to Consider
What do you like?
What do you want?
What do you wish could be different?
Do you know what you like?
Can sex be a more comfortable conversation for us? That’s our hope
Deeply courageous conversations may feel awkward and uncomfortable
What are your feelings about desire?
What is your relationship with desire?
Does the word Desire spark a feeling in you?
If so, can you name it?
LINKS
WHAT WOMEN WISH MEN KNEW ABOUT WOMEN’S SEXUALITY
WHAT WOMEN WISH WOMEN KNEW ABOUT WOMEN’S SEXUALITY
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