In the intro of our podcast, I talk about facing the worst of yourself…well today is one of those days…we are going to discuss Fear. There are so many ways to learn and grow from Fear. Today we will look at it through the lens of Harry Potter…
· In the Movie the Prisoner of Azkaban. Harry and his fellow student wizards are faced with a locked wardrobe of sorts. The scene begins by drawing you into fear as you hear the wardrobe shake from whatever mysterious entity is locked inside. The teacher asks, does anyone know what is inside. One student answers that it is a Boggart. Hermine, of course, follows, stating, as she does, that no one knows what a Boggart looks like because they present as your greatest fear. For the first student, it presents as the feared Professor Snape. The teacher instructs him that whatever he thinks the rest of the class will see when he casts the Ridiculus spell. He casts the spell, and Professor Snape is then dressed in his grandmother’s clothes, and everyone laughs. Another student fears giant spiders and, with the spell, puts roller skates on the spider…you get the picture…
· What is the point here? These 13yo students face their worst fear. Most of them would have rather just left it in the locked wardrobe. If they had, what would have happened…nothing would have changed/fear would have still won…they would have still kept fearing the thing lingering in the unknown. Avoidance is not a helpful strategy.
· For me, and for many, I imagine, my greatest fear was that I wasn’t enough. I spent so many years trying to work harder, be nicer, and give more…where did it get me? I can tell you it didn’t make me feel good about myself, it didn’t attract people to me, I didn’t get my needs met, and the stress of it all probably contributed to being diagnosed with leukemia. I was living in fear all the time.
· What is your Boggart? Perhaps you need to face the fear of having a discussion with someone…your best friend, your spouse, your kids…Maybe yours is more internal like mine was. Maybe you are angry, resentful, and aggressive, which is the other end of the pendulum from where I was…both equally damaging in different ways.
· I can share my story because that is not who I AM anymore…that person is only my past. Not my present or my future.
· I was talking to someone the other day, and we got to laughing at the fears she was having…
How does facing your Boggart help you LEAD Lucky? It will allow you to be who you want to be as a leader: confident, connected, and able to set consequences and boundaries more easily. IT will also help you catch people doing good to positively reinforce behavior and build the feeling of a team. The team needs to trust you. They need to trust that you can handle their junk…and not get phased by it. If your team is your family and you are the parent...
Closing: What is one thing you will take away from the episode today? What will you do?
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