Part 2 of Top 5 Relationship Savers. If you didn’t get a chance to listen to the first one, you definitely want to check it out. Today Relationships Saver: If you aren’t contributing to it, then don’t expect it.
· What do you most desire that is missing from your relationships? You need to know the answer to this question, no one else can decide this for you. (love, trust, autonomy, support, etc.) How do you need this met?
· Significant other: Marriage counseling (love, acceptance or safety). How are you contributing to what you want?
o Love – what fills your love tank?
o Acceptance – not being criticized
o Trust – giving opportunities to build trust. Step into courage through fear of the past.
· Children: TIME – meet them where they are. Common interest. (teenagers/adults – buy tickets to a favorite band and go w/ them)
o You want changed behavior – listen to what their behavior is communicating. Meet their needs.
o If they say “I hate you,” it may communicate that they don’t feel accepted/loved. Behavior-focused?
· Friends: Changed Routine. Went to CO to visit my brother. I am a vegetarian. If they’re good friends, they’ll adjust. Collaborate.
· In every scenario, we have to change to expect change!
How does contributing to what you want help you LEAD Lucky? IF you aren’t leading people by example, then you aren’t creating the environment you desire. How do they know how to succeed? Be who you want them to be, and they’ll follow you. Need boundaries/consequences.
Closing: What is one thing you will take away from the episode today? What will you do?
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