The legal profession lacks formal training on managing vicarious trauma, emotional overwhelm, and the human dynamics underpinning family breakdown, leading to family professionals' own mental health and wellbeing coming under pressure through their work.
With 20 years' experience as a trauma specialist psychotherapist and a trained cognitive behavioural therapist, not to mention a family mediator, Sonya Black brings a huge amount of knowledge and understanding around trauma‑informed divorce‑coaching and supporting both family professionals and individuals emotionally, practically, and strategically throughout the separation process to the Today's Family Lawyer podcast.
Indeed, she is an advocate for trauma‑informed training within firms to help lawyers understand neurobiology, manage clients more effectively, and protect their own wellbeing.
It's a mission she has launched herself into as the founder of a divorce coaching programme providing training, one‑to‑one support, and group coaching, which in her words transforms the divorce experience for clients, minimises conflict, and supports family lawyers in delivering better outcomes.
Divorce, she argues, is a significant life transition and need not be inherently traumatic if the right emotional scaffolding is in place. She emphasises the importance of recognising triggers, addressing intergenerational trauma, and ensuring children’s long‑term wellbeing by making mindful decisions that shape their memories. The discussion is framed around psychological safety, empowerment, understanding personal history, and avoiding further harm.
On her relationship with family professionals, Black explains the coach’s role as holding the client emotionally and practically so that the lawyer can focus on legal work without absorbing the full emotional burden. She highlights how unregulated stress impairs cognitive functioning, decision‑making, memory, and problem‑solving, which can significantly disrupt the legal process.
Listen in to understand more about how family professionals can protect both themselves, and their clients, through being more aware of the impact of trauma.
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